Marriages and weddings are complicated even in their most simple form. Yet in modern life, things are rarely so simple. Today it is incredibly common to marry someone who already has children. When this happens you are not only marrying your new partner but you are becoming a new stepmom or stepdad to some kids. This means the occasion is not just about the two of you but also about the step kids. Don’t worry it will still be your special day but by thinking of the other people involved you can make sure it is a celebration that you all enjoy. The secret to ensuring your stepchildren enjoy the wedding day is to get them a special gift.
First of all, we should stress that tradition does not say you have to get them a gift. Tradition tends to stay away from the whole idea of step kids. We just think this is a great way to mark the special occasion and the new landmark in your relationship with your new kids. No matter what age they are, you are making a huge decision that will have some impact on their lives. Mark it in the right way.
As this is the beginning of a new chapter in your and their life a watch is a very sensible and nice gift. One of the best things about a watch is that you can get it engraved. If there is something meaningful you want to share than an engraving on the back of a watch is a lovely idea.
Charm bracelets are a similarly good idea as they mark the start of something new. Some people really like charm bracelets and others hate them so try and subtly find out where your stepchild sits in this question. If they do like them then it can be a great gift as you can add to it as your relationship grows throughout the years.
An activity is a great gift because it shows the new child in your life that you actually want to spend time with them. While a watch or bracelet is a great gift it can come across a little cold. By getting them an activity that they will love and that you will take part in it is not only showing them that you care but also that you want to get to know them better. Be careful with this gift though as you need to ensure it is something they actually want to do. If you love horse riding and get them a gift voucher for horse riding lessons they may feel you are trying to force more changes in their life. Instead, embrace what they love and try to add to it. If they love the arts you could get them a trip to an art museum in a city far away, or to a musical that is coming to town.
One other great idea is to give them the gift of a role at the wedding. While it is a special day for you and your partner it is an incredibly big day for them as well. Show them that you realize how important the day is by giving them an important task. Depending on their age this may be as a flower boy or girl, handing out booklets or being an MC or giving a speech. This shows them that you really care about them and want them involved.
Whatever you decide to get make sure that it comes from the heart. Getting them a gift but treating it like any other will not work here as you need to show them how important they are to you. By choosing the right gift they will know exactly how much you care.
